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[Axl]

Now, a discussion in my blog lead me to making this thread. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to be rude, disrespectful, slanderous, or anything like that. Nor am I seeking attention. I just want to know if I'm the only one who feels this way.

Upon joining YH, I thought I would be among a bunch of friendly people, because hey, they all seemed to be having fun talking to each other and roleplaying. But when I tried to get involved in their community, I honestly felt left out. Yes, I was able to become a part of the forum games and even some roleplays. But I still feel like some people are unwelcoming. Not intentionally, of course. It's more like... going to your friend's family reunion. You have your friend with whom you are comfortable with, and then you're around strangers that you want to get to know. They're friendly but you can't seem to become a part of their family like you want to.

Again, I'm not trying to be mean or anything. I just want to know. If I'm the only one who feels this way, then maybe Bardie is right. Maybe I'm the unfriendly one and I should leave.

[alyzza]

Uhm,hello, don't think that way...
I don't post that's why I don't get ignored, hehe, this is the first time. ^_^

[Kyrin]

Hey Axl,
You shouldn't let a few bad apples ruin the bunch. I have been here for who knows how long now, been here even since the original forums. Yeah I have gained a few friends along the way, it all comes in time. Everyone so far that I have come across is friendly, had a few bumps with a few, but you get that anywhere. Not everyone is going to be on their tip top shape and all happy all the time. People are more then friendly to you if you are friendly to them. You catch more bees with honey.
I'm not saying you are mean or anything of that sort, all I'm saying is you don't know where the other person is coming from, so don't be quick to judge them either. If someone bothers you, move on, find another friendly face. There are tons of people on here, more joining even. You are bound to find a few or even a group of them you 'fit' with or whom you enjoy.
I personally be here, like I said, for a while now, I have gained seriously like 4 friends off here in total. Yeah, I know of, and people know of me on here, but I mean friend friends, who I talk to often, know a bit, and so forth. And I'm still even gaining new company and getting to know others.
If you have many friends, you are blessed, if you have but one true friend... You are truly blessed.

[yannes]

I am quite new in the forums and i know how you feel.
People call you welcome and all that, and they really mean it, but they always seem to havve that one perosn they like better, that's why i took so long to use the chat.
I used it today for the first time and i felt pretty much ignored ar first, but after a while they started talking toi me as well, so i'm really happy

You just need to find the right person i guess, don't oryy too much about it

[Munkii]

Wherever you go, you're going to find people you don't get along with, or don't feel welcome to.

I'd prefer you not judge the community as a whole when you've only witnessed the small part that's been active since you've joined. Yaoi-Haven lost quite a bit of it's active members back in November when we lost our server, and is only just starting to fully recover from the loss.

Personally I think you're just thinking too much about it, which is adding onto the feeling you've been getting, but that's just my opinion.

-Munkii

[Kandie]

I understand your point Axl, been there myself. I don't know if you're like myself, unsocial and well, quite shy when it's about joining things. I've seen you many times in the sb and you have quite the courage. (or so I think)
It's different for me that's used to being ignored and no friends and stuff like that. But I never say that I want a ' yaoihaven family ' or I want new friends, because to be honest, I only planned to join so I could rp. :P
But I've actually managed to get a friend or two. I don't need to be like everyone else, to have many friends, being really close or other things. Like a person told me when I felt lonely and didn't feel like I have many friends: This community is friendly, as long as you get to know them you'll like them. As long as they get to know you, they will like you. I'm sure if it's you, you can get many friends.

[ima]

i get what your saying...but all i can do is repeat munkii for the most part.
But if you feel as if there unwelcoming, try to take the chance to know them. True, someone may not like you. but that doesnt mean that there arent others who will welcome and enjoy you.

Just give it sometime. Youll see how diffrent things will be. And be yourself :3

[Bardie]

Woah woah...woah. Dude, you're going a little TOO far. I never told you to leave; I just asked why you were here if you didn't find anything appealing about the site. I'm sorry if my comments had been taken the wrong way. I just thought you hated the site, that's all; hell, I don't even know you that well.

Please don't leave, just...control yourself. Seriously, I still never asked you to leave! x( I'd hate to see another person leave because of me.

Now everyone's gonna think I'm the bad guy here, huh? Well, f*ck me...>.>

[Kandie]

Woah woah...woah. Dude, you're going a little TOO far. I never told you to leave; I just asked why you were here if you didn't find anything appealing about the site. I'm sorry if my comments had been taken the wrong way. I just thought you hated the site, that's all; hell, I don't even know you that well.

Please don't leave, just...control yourself. Seriously, I still never asked you to leave! x( I'd hate to see another person leave because of me.

Now everyone's gonna think I'm the bad guy here, huh? Well, f*ck me...>.>

Bardie isn't a bad guy, you just say what's on your mind.. Often.
And I believe the thing that appealed to Axl (like he mentioned) was that many people had fun talking to each other and were friendly and roleplayed together. Unfortunately it doesn't seem like he'd met many friendly people.

[Axl]

Thanks for all the responses.

I'm sorry if it seemed like I was being too rash or rude. I wasn't trying to make Bardie look like a bad guy. But I figured if I did seem like an unfriendly person in a friendly community, I should just leave.

And I HAVE met friendly people. I'm not so much worried about me meeting friends as I am just... concerned for newcomers, y'know? It's tough being new to a forum. When you see people having fun and you can't fit in anywhere, it's really bothersome. Even moreso when there's some sort of "family drama" going on in the first place you see.

But sorry if it seems like I was judging the whole community. It's just... mainly, I see people who frequent the SB and seem to be dramatic at least half the time, and it's very discouraging to see in a place that I expect to be friendly.